Flu day.

After doing extensive research; which I wished I knew back in 2007.  There is a such thing about workplace bullying.  Six months into working at HT; I got the flu.  I thought I was being a good worker by suffering through and going to work.  At the time, I knew I was sick but wasn't aware that I had the flu.  I was also up for my six month review.  So my boss asked me to meet her at the office.  I walked in and "Alan" immediately says, "Ewww, are you going to market looking like that"?  I said to him well I don't feel well.  He said to me I am not sure what kind of impression you would be making for HT.  I would not want you to go out representing our company looking like that.  These were just a few of the comments Alan took pleasure into saying to me.  I ended up going home that day and went to Quick Care with a 104 temperature.  This goes to show what kind of person I was dealing with.  Instead of being concerned for me he took every opportunity to make me feel less than.  I realize now that he had major inferiority issues and for whatever reason; I was a threat to him.  The best defense to people like him is to give immediate feedback.  I should have said, "Alan, I am not feeling well today but I feel like you are criticizing my physical appearance, am I hear you right".  People like "Alans" are cowards and once confronted will back down quickly.  If problem persists make sure you document and take it up the chain of command.  If you don't get results then go above your managers head.

Kristi